[MUSIC] [APPLAUSE]>>Joy: WELCOME! YOU ARE AT HOME WITH JIM AND JOY. AND YOU ARE AN IMPORTANT PART OF OUR EWTN FAMILY. WE’RE SO DELIGHTED THAT YOU HAVE WELCOMED US INTO YOUR HOME. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU SO SEND US AN EMAIL WITH YOUR QUESTION OR YOUR COMMENT TO [email protected] TODAY, WE’RE DEALING WITH A SENSITIVE SUBJECT, THAT OF TEEN SUICIDE. SO, VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. NOW, TODAY, WE HAVE BEAUTIFUL TAMMY BOND WITH US. SHE IS A LICENSED, CERTIFIED SOCIAL WORKER, A CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR. AND WE HAD HER ON WEDNESDAY. SHE WAS SHARING WITH US ALL THAT IS GOING ON IN OUR NATION AND IN OUR STATE, IN THIS CULTURE OF HOPELESSNESS, FAMILIES THAT FEEL HELPLESS. AND SHE WAS ALSO COMING UP WITH SOLUTIONS ON HOW TO HEAL, TO TAKE THE WHOLE FAMILY IN AND TO REPAIR WHAT’S BROKEN BECAUSE IT MAY NOT JUST BE THE CHILD SOMETIMES. THE CHILDREN ARE COMING FROM ENVIRONMENTS THAT ARE TOXIC. AND EVERYBODY CAN GET ON THE SAME PAGE FOR THE BEST FOR THAT CHILD.>>AND ONE OF THE THINGS THAT SHE SHARED ABOUT THE COUNSELING THAT SHE DOES IS HOW FREQUENTLY, SHE HAS THE PARENTS THERE. THAT’S ALMOST A MUST IF YOU ARE GOING TO COME TO COUNSELING. A WHOLE FAMILY OF SHARING AND COUNSELING AND OTHER PEOPLE PRAYING FOR THEM AS THEY ARE IN THE COUNSELING SESSION. THE OTHER THING SHE SHARED THAT I THOUGHT WAS INTERESTING, WHEN WE THINK OF SUICIDE, AGES 10-24, THE YOUNGER YEARS, SHE TALKED ABOUT WEAK ATTACHMENTS, THAT SO MANY OF THESE CHILDREN HAVE ATTACHMENTS WITH OTHER CHILDREN WWHOSE BRAINS ARE NOT EVEN FULLY DEVELOPED YET OR HAVE A VIEW OF HUMAN LIFE AND FUTURE THAT’S WEAK, NOT MATURED YET. AND HOW WE NEED STRONG ATTACHMENTS AND HOW THE PARENTS NEED MORE AND MORE TO UNDERSTAND. WE ARE THE DOMESTIC CHURCH CHURCH, THE FIRST LINE OF EDUCATION AND NOT TO JUST KEEP SHIPPING EVERYTHING OUT. AND I NEED COUNSELING MORE THAN WHAT I CAN SHARE HERE AND BEYOND THAT. BUT WHAT’S IMPORTANT IS THE HEALTHY ATTACHMENTS IN THE FIRST LINE, THE FAMILY, THE PARENTS, AND THE CHURCH. AND SHE SHARED THOSE YOUNG PEOPLE THAT GO TO CHURCH AT LEAST ONE DAY OUT OF A WEEK, THINK SHE CAN QUOTE STATISTICS, THEY ARE FIVE TIMES LESS LIKELY TO COMMIT SUICIDE. AND WE’RE GOING TO CONTINUE THIS CONVERSATION, SENSITIVE CONVERSATION. MORE WE DISCUSS THIS AND BRING IT OUT TO THE LIFE, THE MORE HEALING PEOPLE CAN HEAL YOU AND PEOPLE LIKE VICTIMS, LOST FAMILY MEMBERS TO THIS. AND CAN HELP UNDERSTAND THE SIGNS AND TO LOOK FOR THOSE SIGNS. WHAT ARE THE CAUSES. PEOPLE LEFT BEHIND, THE GRIEF PROCESS. AND THIS IS SOMETHING THAT WE NEED TO DO AS A FAMILY.>>SOMETIMES WE THINK, OH, THIS IS THE END OF THE STORY. WITH THAT, JESUS, THE END OF THE STORY. THERE’S ALWAYS HOPE TO BE RESTORED. THERE’S ALWAYS LOVE TO BE RENEWED, FORGIVENESS, MERCY. AND WE HAD FATHER CHRIS ON. HE WROTE A GREAT TRACK ON PRAYING THE DIVINE MERCY FOR OUR LOST LOVED ONES MAYBE THROUGH SUICIDE. THAT WAS A GREAT SHOW WE HAD ON WITH HIM.>>AND IT SAYS IN THE CATECHISM, WE SHOULD NOT DESPAIR OF THE ETERNAL SALVATION OF PERSONS TAKING THEIR OWN LIVES, BY WAYS KNOWN TO HIM ALONE, GOD CAN PROVIDE WAYS FOR SALUTORY REPENTANCE AND THE CHURCH PRAYS FOR THOSE WHO TAKE THEIR OWN LIVES AND WE PRAY FOR THOSE IMPACTED BY THIS, TOO. SO, YOU ARE AT HOME WITH JIM AND JOY. PLEASE, DON’T GO AWAY! PLENTY MORE TO COME. [APPLAUSE] [MUSIC] [MUSIC] [APPLAUSE]>>Joy: WELCOME BACK! YOU ARE AT HOME WITH JIM AND JOY AND TODAY, WE FINISH OUR BEAUTIFUL CONVERSATION WITH TAMMY BOND, LICENSED CERTIFIED SOCIAL WORKER, CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR AND WE’RE DEALING WITH THE SUBJECT OF, A SENSITIVE SUBJECT THAT OF TEEN SUICIDE SO VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. NOW, TAMMY IS WITH WELLSPRING CHRISTIAN DOT COM OR YOU CAN GO TO THE SAFE HARBOR.ORG. SO, TAMMY, WE HAD A GREAT SHOW ON WEDNESDAY. TODAY, WE WANT YOU TO INFORM OUR AUDIENCE OF THE CAUSES, THE TREATMENT, AND THE GRIEF OF IT ALL.>>Guest: WELL, YEAH, I THINK WE ENDED LAST TIME, THE NOTIONS OF ATTACHMENT DISORDERS AND HOW YOUNG PEOPLE SEEM TO BE SPENDING MORE TIME WITH YOUNG PEOPLE AND THE INSECURE ATTACHMENTS KIND OF FOSTER THIS ANXIETY, DEPRESSION AND WE TALKED ABOUT COMING FROM HOMES WHERE THEIR MAY BE ADDICTION, DIVORCE, MENTAL ILLNESS AND ALL OF THESE THINGS WORK TOGETHER IN RELATION TO SUICIDE, DESPAIR AND HOPELESSNESS. AND WHEN WE LOOK AT WHAT’S THE STATISTICS, ONE IN FOUR PEOPLE STRUGGLE WITH SOME FORM OF MENTAL DISORDER, ANXIETY, DISORDER AND ONE IN 8 FAMILIES STRUGGLE WITH ADDICTION. WHEN YOU DO THE MATH, THIS IS A REAL ISSUE. OUR YOUNG PEOPLE ARE DEPRESSED, ANXIOUS AND WITH THE MEDIA POPULARIZING LIKE YOU TALKED ABOUT ON WEDNESDAY, POPULARIZING SUICIDE AND HOMICIDE.>>AND YOU CAN DEAL WITH 60 MILLION ABORTIONS. AND IF YOU ARE A CHILD THAT’S PLUGGED IN, YOU SAY, GEE, THAT COULD BE ME, DOESN’T SEEM LIKE CHILDREN ARE WANTED. AND YOU PLUG IN ASSISTED SUICIDE BEING LEGAL. AND YOU PLUG IN EUTHANASIA, THIS IS AN OPTION, FULLY DEVELOPED IN YOUR THINKING AND THAT PLAYS ALL INTO IT.>>AND PUT INTO THAT, THE LEGALIZATION OF MARIJUANA, ALCOHOL, YOU HAVE A PERFECT COCKTAIL FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE REALLY FIGHTING NOT TO SUSPENSION SPIRITUAL WARFARE AND THE THINGS THAT THEY INVITE INTO THEIR LIVES, VIDEO GAMES.>>AND THIS THROW AWAY CULTURE OF LIFE, MY LIFE DOESN’T MATTER. AND WE DON’T GET THE DIGNITY AND VALUE AND WORTH OF EVERY HUMAN BEING.>>AND WE SEE HIGH SUICIDE RATES, AS YOU DO, POST ABORTION SYNDROME, SUICIDE THROUGH HOPELESSNESS, BULLYING, POST PARTEM DEPRESSION. AND COMING IN ALL VEINS OF LIFE. SO MANY GREAT TREATMENT OPTIONS. AND I WAS LISTENING TO A TED TALK, THE OFFICER FOR THE GOLDEN GATE BRIDGE, MANY PEOPLE TAKE THEIR LIFE ON THE GOLDEN GATE BRIDGE AND IT WAS A GREAT TALK. AND HE SAYS, OUT OF THE HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE HE’S TALKED TO, ONLY TWO HAVE TAKEN THEIR LIFE. BECAUSE ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS LISTEN. YOU JUST NEED TO GET THEM TALKING AND LISTENING. IT WORKS. I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT. AS A THERAPIST SITTING IN THE OFFICE WITH FOLKS OR JUST INTERVENING IN A CRISIS SITUATION, YOU LISTEN AND GET THEM TALKING AND THAT HUMAN CONNECTION HAS A SPIRIT TO IT, HAS A UNITY TO IT THAT PULLS THEM OUT A LITTLE BIT.>>THIS IS SOMETHING THAT IS ANOTHER AREA SO DESPERATELY NEED TO COME TO THE LIGHT, LIGHT NEEDS TO BE SHOWN UPON THIS. YET WE DON’T WANT TO REALLY TALK ABOUT IT.>>SO I THINK IT HAS TO START WITH OUR PARISHES, CHURCHES, GETTING THE PASTORS FAMILIAR WITH THE LANGUAGE, GETTING PRIESTS FAMILIAR WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE GIVING HINTS THAT THEY MAY BE READY TO TAKE THEIR LIFE. AND HAVING THAT BOLDNESS, YOU GET SCHOOLED BY FIRE WHEN YOU ARE A THERAPIST. SADLY, I HAD A GIRL TAKE HER LIFE WHEN SHE WAS 14, ONE OF MY VERY FIRST CLIENTS HERE. AND THE REGRET THAT I LIVED WITH WAS SIMPLY THIS. SHE SAT ON A DIFFERENT PART OF THE COUCH, AFTER UL OF THE SESSIONS WE HAD TOGETHER, SHE WAS IN A DIFFERENT PART. AND I NEVER DREW ATTENTION TO IT. IT WAS BOTHERING ME. BUT SHE LEFT THE SESSION AND LATER THAT EVENING TOOK HER LIFE.>>HAD I JUST STRUCK UP THE CONVERSATION A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY, WHO KNOWS. THAT LITTLE DETAIL. SO, GOING AFTER, GETTING OUR PASTORS, PRIESTS AND TEACHERS ASKING THE QUESTION, DO YOU HAVE A PLAN. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING. DO YOU FEEL HOPELESS. AND BEGIN TO INTERVENE. WE KNOW TOO THAT WITH MOOD DISORDERS AND DEPRESSION, MEDICATIONS WORK. THE FRONTAL LOBE, ALL YOUNG PEOPLE ARE SO TRAUMATIZED BY VIDEO GAMES AND WHAT THIEF SEEN ON — THEY’VE SEEN ON VIDEO GAMES, TRAUMA HAS AN EFFECT ON THE BRAIN. WE CAN SEE IT ON THE PET SCANS. AND POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, YOU KNOW, PEOPLE FEEL BETTER AFTER THEY GET HELP AND MORE HOPE. AND WE HAVE TRANS MAGNETIC THERAPY. IF YOU DON’T WANT TO DO THE THERAPY, THERE ARE BRAIN MAGNET AND FDA JUST APPROVED TRANS MAGNETIC THERAPY FOR DEPRESSION AND INSURANCE COMPANIES ARE COVERING IT.>>WHEN YOU SAY, ARE YOU MAKING A PLAN.>>YOU ARE SAYING IT TO THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE SUSPECTING THAT IS HOPELESS. DO YOU HAVE A PLAN. IF YOU ARE TAKING YOUR LIFE, IF YOU DID, WHAT WOULD YOU DO. AND YOU HAVE A PLAN TO TAKE YOUR LIFE. WHAT’S THE PLAN TO PRE PREVENT THAT.>>BASICALLY, HAVE THEY THOUGHT ABOUT IT, I’M GOING TO TAKE MY LIFE THROUGH A DRUG OVERDOSE. CAR ACCIDENT. AND SO, IF THE CLIENT HAS DECIDED ON A PLAN, WE HAVE TO UP THE URGENCY. THAT’S HOSPITALIZATION. THAT’S POLICE INVOLVEMENT. THAT’S CALLING THE THERAPIST, THEIR PARENTS, SPOUSES, OLDER OR MARRIED. BUT I THINK THERE’S ALWAYS A FEAR OF ASKING THAT. ARE GOING TO INSULT THE PERSON IF YOU ASK THAT. BUT YOU COULD SAY, I SEE THAT YOU SEEM TO REALLY BE STRUGGLING RIGHT NOW. HOW BAD IS IT. DO YOU HAVE A PLAN.>>BECAUSE YOU JUST WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU RECOGNIZE IN THEM, MAYBE THEY ARE MISERABLE AND THEY ARE HURTING AND IN SO MUCH PAIN. AND THOSE THAT COMMIT SUICIDE, THEY JUST WANT THE PAIN TO STOP.>>MAYBE THEY ARE THINKING OF TAKING THEIR LIFE. CAN YOU SAY THAT? YOU ARE SO AFRAID, YOU KNOW, HOW BAD IS THIS.>>AND AS PARENTS.>>BRING IT TO THE LIGHT, YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, BRING IT TO THE LIGHT AND GET THEM TALKING ABOUT IT. FOR EVERY SUICIDE, THERE’S 25 ATTEMPTS. SO, YOU CAN CATCH IT. RIGHT? GOING BACK TO THE GOLDEN GATE BRIDGE OFFICER, HE SAID THAT ANYBODY THEY HAVE INTERVIEWED THAT ACTUALLY JUMPED AND SURVIVED, THEY SAY IMMEDIATELY, THEY KNEW THEY WERE DOING THE WRONG THING, IMMEDIATELY. AND I’VE HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WORKING IN PSYCH HOSPITALS THAT THEY KNEW IMMEDIATELY, WHEN ATTEMPTING THAT IT WAS THE WRONG THING TO DO.>>Jim: SO THE TREATMENTS YOU WENT OVER SOME OF THIS. ANYTHING ELSE IN THAT AREA.>>I THINK OBVIOUSLY, TH THERAP. I KNOW THEY WERE RELUCTANTANT TO GET TO MAKE THAT CALL TO A COUNSELING CENTER. BUT PLENTY OF GOOD COUNSELORS OUT THERE, AND IT’S LIKE TAKING A HAIRCUT, YOU KNOW, GET A BAD HAIR CUT AND YOU DON’T GO BACK TO THAT ONE. YOU FIND ONE THAT YOU CAN ENGAGE WITH, SPEAK YOUR LANGUAGE AND YOU SPEAK THERE’S. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, IT’S JUST ABOUT THE CORRECT MATCH.>>COUNSELING, SOMETIMES MEDICATION INTERVENTION, SOMETIMES SUPPORT GROUPS CAN BE HELPFUL IN THE AREAS. NOW, WE’RE SEEING MORE WITH THE INSURANCE, THE WAY WE DO THINGS WITH PSYCH. WE’RE SEEING INTENSIVES, YOU KNOW, SENDING SOMEBODY TO ON SIGHT IN TENNESSEE TO A WEEK LONG WORKSHOP ON GOOD SELF CARE, LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF. SO, THERE’S SO MANY INTERVENTIONS.>>NOW, TELL US ABOUT TREATMENT FOR SURVIVORS. AND I DON’T MEAN PEOPLE WHO HAVE SURVIVED IN AN ATTEMPT, I’M TALKING ABOUT FAMILY, SPOUSE, WHAT HAS TO BE DONE FOR THEM. AND WHAT IMPLICATIONS ARE THERE IF WE DON’T REALLY RECEIVE THE TREATMENT AND THE HELP. THINK SHORTLY AFTER A LOSS, THE STATE AND CONDITION THAT ONE MUST BE IN FROM THIS. HOW DO YOU MINISTER TO PEOPLE THAT ARE LEFT BEHIND?>>Guest: WELL, I THINK THE GRIEF OF SURVIVORS OF A FAMILY MEMBER THAT’S TAKEN THEIR LIFE OR A FRIEND IS SO COMPLICATED. YOU AND I WERE TALKING ABOUT THIS EARLIER. FOR NORMAL GRIEF, IF YOU LOSE SOMEBODY TO DEATH, USUALLY YOU HAVE ENTERED THE PROCESS WITH THEM. MAYBE YOU WERE BY THEIR BEDSIDE. BUT WHEN DEATH HAS COME ON TO THE SCENE IN A VIOLENT AND ISOLATED WAY, THE PERSON THAT IS THE FAMILY MEMBER ONLY HAS THEIR IMAGINATION TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENED, AND TO PUT THE PIECES TOGETHER. A LOT OF TIMES, THE GRIEF GETS COMPLICATED BECAUSE THE PERSON IS OVER HERE IMAGINING, WHAT DID THEY DO, WHAT DID THEY FEEL LIKE, WHAT WAS IT LIKE, WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE. AND THE IMAGINATION BLOCKS THE GRIEF WORK. GRIEF IS WORK. MOST FOLKS DON’T WANT TO DO GRIEF WORK. WE ALL WANT TO AVOID IT. AND OUR BODY AND SOULS, THE WAY THEY ARE DESIGNED ALLOWS THE GRIEF TO COME IN, LIKE WE DIGEST FOOD AND ALLOWS US TO SLOWLY DIGEST THIS UNREAL EXPERIENCE WHERE THE LIVES ARE COMPLETELY ALTERED IN A SLOW WAY. WE BARGAIN. WELL, MAYBE THIS, THAT, MAYBE SOMETHING ELSE, DEPRESSION, DENIAL, ANGER. IT ALL WORKS TOGETHER IN A WAY OVER THE COUPLE OF YEARS THAT WE’VE TRIED TO WORK THROUGH THIS TO ALLOW US TO ACCEPT AND BE REBORN TO TRANSFORM INTO A LOSS. GRIEVING SUICIDE IS COMPLEX. YOU HAVE THE TRAUMA AND THEN YOU HAVE GRIEF. THE LOSS AND FIGURING OUT HOW TO DO LIFE WITH THE LOSSMENT SO, I THINK YOU HAVE TO HAVE THERAPY. HAVE YOU TO HAVE A GOOD COUNSELOR OR A GOOD SUPPORT GRIEF. GRIEF GROUPS ARE WONDERFUL. LOTS OF PEOPLE ARE MINISTERED BY GRIEF SHARE AND MOST CHURCHES HAVE GRIEF GROUPS. AGAIN, THIS IS A TRAUMA TO THE BRAIN. AND TRAUMA REWIRES THE BRAIN AND MEDICATION IS ON OPTION TOO. BUT JUST BRINGING SOMEBODY INTO YOUR GRIEF. C.S. LEWIS SAID, I LOVE THIS, IN THE BOOK A GRIEF OBSERVED, NOBODY TOLD ME THAT GRIEF FELT LIKE FEAR. IT DOES. YOU WALK AROUND WITH THIS FEARFUL KIND OF ANTICIPATION. AND LATER IN THE BOOK, HE SAYS, NOBODY TOLD ME THAT GRIEF FELT LIKE LAZY AND LAZINESS. AND ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU ARE CONSUMED WITH FEAR AND LAZINESS AND YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU WERE. AND IDENTITY IS SHIFTING. YOU NEED A SOUNDING BOARD AND SOMEBODY TO TEST YOUR REALITY AND REMIND YOU THAT YOU ARE NOT GOING CRAZY. EVERYBODY’S GRIEF IS DIFFERENT. EVERYBODY’S PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT AND EVERYBODY’S GRIEF IS DIFFERENT.>>THAT’S WHERE IT GETS TROUBLESOME FOR FAMILIES OF THE SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE. MAYBE THE FATHER PROCESSES IT A WHOLE OTHER WAY, THE MOM PROCESSES IT A WHOLE OTHER WAY. AND DOESN’T MEAN THAT ANYBODY’S WAY IS WRONG. IT’S WHAT YOU JUST SAID, IT’S UNIQUE TO EVERY ONE. SO THAT’S WHERE YOU NEED COUNSELING, SPEAK AND TELL ME, AM I OKAY. IS IT ALREADY THAT I AM THIS WAY. YOU WANT TO BE THE SAME, IF IT’S A SHARED CHILD BUT IT’S NOT THE SAME.>>ND AT DIVORCE RATE GOES UP VERY HIGH FOR PARENTS THAT HAVE LOST CHILDREN. BEREAVED PARENTS, IT’S COMPLICATED AND NORMAL GRIEF PROCESS, WHATEVER THAT MEANS, TAKES ABOUT TWO YEARS. AFTER TWO YEARS AFTER I WORK WITH A WIDOWER, YOU CAN SEE THEM AT THE END OF THE TWO YEAR MARK, THEY WAKE UP TO THE WORLD AGAIN, FIGURING OUT HOPE IN THE FUTURE. BUT FOR GRIEF PARENTS, IT’S FIVE YEARS OR IF NOT LONGER. AND YOU NEED SOMEBODY TO COME ON THE JOURNEY WITH YOU. IT’S SO COMPLEX AND SO UNLIKE ANY OTHER THING THAT I THINK HUMANS EXPERIENCE. WORKING THROUGH THE GUILT. WORKING THROUGH THE MARRIAGE, KEEPING THE MARRIAGE TOGETHER.>>AND THE REST OF THE FAMILY, THE OTHER CHILDREN.>>AND WE JUST HAVE ABOUT 45 SECONDS LEFT. JUST A CLOSING WORD ON THIS REALITY AND HOPE IN THE MIDST OF IT.>>THINK TO PIGGYBACK WHAT YOU SAID, TRUTH TO LIGHT. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK THE HARD QUESTIONS. TODAY, AFTER GOING THROUGH WHAT I WENT THROUGH 15 YEARS AGO, ASK THE HARD QUESTION EVEN IF IT’S SILLY. WHY ARE YOU SITTING ON THE OTHER PART OF THE COUCH?>>ARE YOU DISCONNECTING FROM ME. ALWAYS ASK THE QUESTION.>>Jim: TAMMY BOND THANK YOU FOR ABOUT US — FOR BEING WITH US TODAY AND THANK YOU FOR DISCUSSING THE TENDER REALITY THAT’S GOING ON. AND THANK YOU FOR THE TRENCHES OF HELPING SO MANY. AND THE suicidepreventionlifeline.org OR YOU CAN CALL 1-800-273-8255. NOW, THE LIFELINE, THERE’S HELP FOR EVERYBODY, SURVIVORS, THOSE THAT HAVE MADE ATTEMPTS, VETERANS, THOSE LEFT BEHIND, AGED, EVERY GROUP THAT YOU CAN THINK OF. THERE IS SUPPORT AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE! SO DON’T GO AWAY, WE HAVE PLENTY MORE TO COME. [APPLAUSE] [MUSIC] [MUSIC] [APPLAUSE]>>Joy: FATHER JOHN PAUL IS JOINING US BUT FIRST, LET’S GO TO JOAN LEWIS AND SHE’S IN ROME TO TELL US WHAT’S GOING ON THERE. PLEASE, TELL US ALL ABOUT IT!>>HI JIM! HI JOY! WHAT A BUSY AND HAPPY PERIOD THIS HAS BEEN FOR THE CHURCH, 24 NEW DEACONS AT THE NORTH AMERICAN COLLEGE, 4 NEW BISHOPS AND 13 NEW CARDINALS CREATED BY THE POPE. AND A HALFS ON SATURDAY IN THE CONSISTORY. THAT WAS ON SATURDAY. AND LAST SUNDAY, POPE FRANCIS PRESIDED AT MASS IN ST. PETER’S BASILICA TO OPEN THE SYNOD FOR THE AMAZON. THE ACTUAL WORK SESSIONS BEGAN ON MONDAY. AND IN JUST TWO DAYS IN ST. PETER’S SQUARE, THE HOLY FATHER WILL GIVE THE UNIVERSAL CHURCH 5 NEW SAINTS, INCLUDING CARDINAL JOHN HENRY NEWMAN, THE FIRST NEW ENGLISH SAINT IN ABOUT 50 YEARS AND THE FIRST ENGLISH PERSON WHO HAS LIVED SINCE THE 17TH CENTURY OFFICIALLY RECOGNIZED AS A SAINT. WHAT AN AMAZING LIFE NEWMAN HAD, A RICH AND COLORFUL MULTI FACETED MOSAIC, TO BE SURE. CARDINAL NEWMAN, BEATIFIED IN ENGLAND BY POPE BENEDICT XVI IN 2010, WAS BORN IN 1801. HE WAS ORDAINED AS A CHURCH OF ENGLAND, THAT IS, ANGLICAN PRIEST AND WAS FAMOUS ALREADY IN HIS 30S FOR HIS HOMILIES AND WRITINGS, INCLUDING POEMS. NEWMAN WENT ON TO FOUND THE OXFORD MOVEMENT THAT TRIED TO RETURN TO THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND MANY CATHOLIC BELIEFS AND LITURGICAL RITES PRESENT BEFORE THE REFORMATION. IN 1845, NEWMAN JOINED BY SOME OF THE OXFORD MOVEMENT FOLLOWERS, LEFT THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND AND HIS TEACHING POST AT OXFORD UNIVERSITY AND CONVERTED TO CATHOLICISM, A LIFE-CHANGING DECISION AFTER WHICH HUGE NUMBERS OF FRIENDS AND FOLLOWERS DESERTED HIM. BUT THIS ALSO ENRICHED THE CATHOLIC CHURCH WITH HIS THOUGHTS AND WRITINGS. BENEDICT XVI SAID OF CARDINAL NEWMAN, AT HIS 2010 BEATIFICATION IN BIRMINGHAM, ENGLAND. CARDINAL NEWMAN IS A MODERN MAN, WHO TOOK ON ALL OF THE PROBLEMS OF MODERNITY, HE EXPERIENCED THE PROBLEM OF AGNOSTICISM, THE IMPOSSIBILITY OF KNOWING GOD, OF BELIEVING. A MAN WHO THROUGHOUT HIS LIFE WAS ON A JOURNEY, A JOURNEY TO LET HIMSELF BE TRANSFORMED BY THE TRUTH, IN A SEARCH OF GREAT SINCERITY AND GREAT WILLINGNESS, TO LEARN MORE, TO FIND AND TO ACCEPT THE PATH TO TRUE LIFE. AND WE ARE ALWAYS ON A JOURNEY OF FAITH TRANSFORMED BY TRUTH SO LET’S ALLOW OURSELVES BE INSPIRED BY THIS GREAT ENGLISH SAINT. SO TUNE IN SUNDAY WHEN EWTN COVERS THIS CANONIZATION MASS. BACK TO YOU.>>Jim: THANKS SO MUCH, JOAN. NOBODY LIKE YOU TO MAKE US FEEL RIGHT AT HOME IN ROME, AT THE VATICAN AND SUCH A BEAUTIFUL TIME. FATHER, WHAT’S YOUR THOUGHTS AND REFLECTIONS ON THE SHOW?>>Father: GREAT WEEK OF SHOWS WITH TAMMY BOND. JUST AGAIN, A VERY SOBERING TOPIC. I THINK THAT YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT, THAT THIS TOPIC NEEDS TO COME MORE TO THE FOREFRONT OF THE PEOPLES’ DISCUSSIONS, ESPECIALLY PARENTS. AND TAMMY HAD SOME GREAT ADVICE ABOUT, THINK IT WAS THE LAST SHOW AND SHE TALKED ABOUT, ACTUALLY, HOW MUCH TIMES THE KIDS WERE SPENDING WITH SOCIAL MEDIA AND SPORTS VERSUS FAMILY TIME. 80% VERSUS 20%, FLIP THAT AROUND, YEAH. SOCIAL MEDIA, A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT ARE ON SOCIAL MEDIA, THEY CAN FALL INTO THIS TYPE OF ISOLATION AND SAY, I HAVE ALL THESE FRIENDS AND LOOK HOW MANY LIKES I’M GETTING. THEIR LIFE CAN BE SO CONSUMED UPON THIS. AND STUDIES EVEN SHOW THAT YOU ARE, I GUESS YOUR DOPAMINE LEVELS SPIKE EVEN EVERY TIME YOU GET A TEXT, EMAILS, LIKES. CAN YOU IMAGINE A YOUNG CHILD HAVING THAT GOING ON WITHIN THEIR CHEMISTRY, WITHIN THEIR BRAIN, THEY CAN’T HANDLE THAT. THEY CAN’T HANDLE THAT.>>AND IT’S ALL FALSE INTIMACY. IT’S NOT REAL.>>RIGHT. IT’S NOT TRULY ENCOUNTERING THE OTHER. YOU TALK A LOT ABOUT THIS, WHAT IT MEANS TO LOOK AT SOMEBODY IN THE FACE, A TRUE ENCOUNTER AND TRUE DIALOG AND TRUE INTIMACY. AND WE NEED TO TEACH YOUNG PEOPLE WHAT THIS IS REALLY ABOUT, HAVING A REAL INTIMACY WITH ONE ANOTHER AND ULTIMATELY WITH GOD.>>Jim: FATHER, WELL SAID, CLOSE NEWS A BLESSING.>>Father: FAMILY, MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU, KEEP YOU TURN HIS FACE TO YOU SHOWING YOU MERCY AND HIS KINDNESS AND GIVE YOU PEACE. IN THE NAME OF THE FATHER, SON, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT. AMEN.>>AMEN.>>Jim: REMEMBER, YOU ARE AN IMPORTANT PART OF THE EWTN FAMILY. YOU ARE ALWAYS AT HOME WITH JIM AND JOY. KEEP IT RIGHT HERE ON EWTN! BYE NOW. [APPLAUSE] [MUSIC]

At Home with Jim and Joy – 2019-10-11 – Tammy Bond
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    Hi I watch your program on TV I am a big fan of the program I just want some advice about marriage

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